Had the gnarliest dream two nights ago and it wasn’t gnarly in the good way either. Let’s just say it was a really really weird dream.
Let me begin.
In this dream, I was still with my current boyfriend, but for some reason i had to go to some sort of show or prom or something with my ex-boyfriend. Thats kinda weird already considering i dont really like him and we havent even talked for something nearing 4 years.
Anyways, i had to go to this thing with my ex and i had to wear this skirt/dress thing that was really short. It was also green, frilly and gold trimmed; by the way, you’d never catch me in something like that in real life.
so he took me to this dance come show and instead of taking me home afterwards he took e to this high rise blobk of flats that i’d never been to before.
Confused, i turned and asked him what the hell we were doing here, to which his reply was “oh, i live here now. I thought you might want to come back to get changed here and maybe have a coffee and talk”.
Again confused i asked him why i would want to do that, seeing as i have a boyfriend and then he totally started coming on to me. I had a spaz attack. I was so angry. I was telling him that i was happy with my choice all those years ago but then he syas how if i was happy then why’d i come with him tonight and why did i come to his house?
And i said it was because i had to because i promise him i would a long time ago and i’m not one to break my promises, even if i don’t like you. But he said that i was lying, that deep down i wanted to know what it would have been like staying with him.
I’m still not sure. And you know what? A big part of me wants to know how things would have been if we split a bit more amicably, if we stayed friends. But then a big part of me knows that it never would’ve worked because he has never been able to let me go. Or maybe my dream sybolises the fact that haven’t been ale to let go. Maybe there’s something I need to do.
And you know what? i realised what it is. I never got the closure i truly wanted or deserved. I just wanted him to say sorry for treatting me so shitty for all that time. I wanted him to tell me that it was okay for me to choose who i chose, that he’s not mad at me.
And i wanted to be able to tell him sorry for my choice. That it was never my intention to hurt him even though he would never have been the man i chose. I wanted to be able to tell him to move on, that us blaming each other constantly would never be the answer.
But how do you do all those things after so long? its been almost 4 years. 4 long years of silence and mutual dislike and anger. No, not anger. Angers not the right word but right now i’m not sure what the right word for it is. Where do you find the courage to do this? I feel like nows the right time but i’m just so scared.
Maybe he’s already forgotton. Maybe its only me with the problem. Maybe its all in my head.
Things have been so bad for me lately and maybe its karma.
I want to tell him these things but keep it behind closed doors. I dont want to tell anyone else, i dont want to tell my boyfriend and i dont want him to tell anyone; not his friends or lovers.
Its hard to understand. And i know a lot of people will just tell me to email him or contact him somehow but its just not that easy.
I don’t know. Maybe i’m just making it harder than it really is.
XoXo