I’ve been with the same guy since I was 15. I’m 18 and he’s 20 now. I’ve tried to be with other people, but I’ve been with him steady for over a year now, almost 2.

The thing is, he’s always getting into trouble, and he drinks way too much. Last summer he went to jail for possesion of crack cocaine. I love him so much, but I can’t stand to see what he’s doing to himself. He’s literally drinking himself to death. He drinks so much now that we haven’t had sex in a month, and this is a big deal because before he got really bad we used to have sex at least 2 or 3 times a day, no matter what.

Sunday he called me from the jail in the next county. he got pulled over for drving erratically and they got him for not having a license. This is the 4th time since last April he’s gotten arrested, and the the third time he’s been to jail in that time.

I love him so much, but I just can’t handle the stress. He tells me he wants to marry me when he gets home, but I don’t think I can spend the rest of my life worrying about him and hunting him down in bars. If he can clean himself up, then I would love nothing more than to be with him forever, but the way things are I would have a full head of grey hair within a year or so of the wedding. I just can’t see a life without him though, he’s my Dear Daniel!!

Any advice?