society is upsetting me again…
why is it that ppl are so obsessed with standing out? a few years ago, almost everyone i knew had the same idea of what “pretty” means–classic, blonde-haired small-waisted girly-dressing girls–and most of them disliked the fact that they didnt fit the stereotype. however, i have blond hair and i like dressing girly (my waist isnt that small) and i didnt love it, i didnt resent it, i was just like “thats just how i am.” but now all of my friends (who are perfectly awesome how they are) are changing every detail about themselves-dying their hair funky neon colors even if they have naturally beautiful hair, claiming to be “emo” when they were happy and cheerful for their whole lives, dressing like boys with baggy pants and backwards baseball caps when their favorite colors are pink and purple -all in an attempt to “stand out” untill they arent the same person anymore!! i dont really care to act like a poser and try to twist reality into something its not, so i have remained how i am, blond hair and pink clothes. for a little while no one really cared, but suddenly im a “conformist” for not being all “look at me im so different!” but really, if you think about it, its even more conformist to try to change yourself just because everyone says to “stand out” (for those of you who dont know the definition of conformist, it means to alter your looks, personality or other things about yourself in order to make others like or accept you) when people say “dont be afraid to stand out” they dont mean to go out of your way to be different, they simply mean that if you are different, you shouldnt hide it just because you think people dont like that quality. i know i sound cheesy, but id much rather hang out with people who like me for the right reasons-e.g. sense of humor, intelligence, ability to keep up a conversation, etc.-not because i have hair you can see a mile away, listen to death rock, cross-dress, wear shirts of bands ive never heard of, or any other stupid, untrue reasons. because, seriously, whats the point? i dont get it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my friends and i used to make fun of the people who wore shoes they didnt know how to walk in or carry around charcoal and sketchbooks when they are about as artistically gifted as a jar of peanut butter just because the guy they liked did or whatever, and now suddenly theyve become what they hated and im in the twilight zone.
seriously, is there an actual good reason for any of the above mentioned efforts to be “different”? im not dissing people who are actually emo or who dye their hair because they like it that way, but i am dissing the people who do stuff like that in order to try to fit in with people whom they have nothing in common with but think are “cool”. and for what? about a million awkward conversations and seeminly small lies that stretch and stretch and stretch? CLARIFICATION PLEASE!!!