Almost everyday, I see to it to log on to Girltalk and check out what’s the updates, trends and likes in the Philippines. I take pleasure on reading someone else’s experiences, advices and opinions of different topics concerning being a Fab Pinay! And so I just wanna share this, taken from the “This thing called Love” Forum from Girltalk, written by Mooncake and leaves… well-stated, precise and with depth and sense. I hope this will help you guys realize something, as much as it gave me a better perspective about love and life.

 7 lessons learned by Mooncake and leaves

1. our one job is to understand the other person. if people took the time to see through their partners, they probably wouldn’t be fighting as much.

2. i was watching p.s. i love you last night and all i could think of was, holly’s character was really stupid, as most women probably are. picking fights about completely nonsensical things. gad, once you’ve got a gerry, you don’t really need much else. appreciate what you have.

3. 95% of problems are imagined, anticipated. the demons are usually in our heads, which is perfectly fine but only up to a certain point. we all have trust issues, abandonment issues. as they say, “if you don’t have a baggage, you haven’t traveled.” but don’t use that as an excuse to be a total a$$ to your partner.

4. in both of my relationships, hindi ako nagpahabol, hindi ako nagpakipot. it doesn’t mean i’m like that with every guy. hindi lang ako plastic at hindi mahilig mag-inarte. both relationships, if you judge by the length of time, have been somewhat successful. so no, ang trabaho, hindi natatapos sa ligawan.

5. the idea that infidelity occurs because your significant other has found someone younger and more attractive than the original partner is, to put bluntly, incredibly stupid. people cheat because there is a big emotional void in there. because they don’t feel appreciated. because they’re loaded with insecurities. it takes two to build and destroy and save a relationship. so please lang, wag mag-inarte na parang biktima lagi o damsel in distress. peste.

6. don’t compare your relationship with other relationships. people are such big liars.

7. you have to love the other person more than the plans you’ve made, more than your version of what makes up a great and fulfilling life.