I am bored. My exam is on this Friday.
Anyhow, this is what I wrote for one of my home works, with some changes

16/04/07
Mix Marriages
The issue of mix marriages gives a lot of things for us to ponder on. The unison of two people coming from different backgrounds, countries, cultures, even religions, who share indisputably only *gasp* one similarity: Love.

*drum rolls tee hee*

There is something said about how differences complete couple. Yet, at other more realistic times, people interestingly agree that the ultimate reason for divorce- or at least what is often written in reasons of parting in court-, is irreconcilable differences. Even if this has been such common fact, these couples seem to be entirely oblivious, especially now that mix marriages happen to be an even more popular trend than it was in the olden days. Of course, it still has some drawbacks that let people think twice (or thrice) and spend time considering things, changes, everything betwixt and between (and to quote a song, for ’sometimes love just ain’t enough’ ).

I have known no one literally, perhaps, who have wed with foreigners, yet, from the constant stories told in our family gatherings, there are few of our close relatives, it’s always this A or B’s sister whose faces I never get to see my entire life, got married with Japanese, or American, and the moment they said their vows, it’s always definite that they would live abroad with their spouses.

Of course, if it’s just a ‘mere’ living location change, it’s probably okay, although they would have nieces like me, whom they would never see (or perhaps they would, once in a blue moon). Anyhow, the case with confusing nationality for children from mix marriages is the thing that complicates all the love bits. The question is when the parents’ marriage is what they opted to chose, do their children get an option out of that? Some countries like Singapore, will gladly acknowledge you as their citizen if you are born in their country. Some would give you option to take both the mother’s and father’s nationality until the children reach the tender age of 18, which is decent since they reasonably would, by then reckon the best citizenship to choose. Even if your child is born on flight on Pacific Ocean, governments give out the easiest solution for you. However, these are the cases of more developed countries.

In less developed and accommodating countries, what we see is desperate mothers and fathers, queuing on the line in government office to ask recognition for their children’s status, which is often due to resolve only by another 2 or 3 years, and by the officers’ cynical remark every time a clearance is asked, could have been even worse. In Indonesia, bureaucracy often tend to complicate the matters of issuing nationality, even if indeed the child was born on their soils. From a long-time ago case that I know, a mother of Finland-Indonesian four-year-old had hard time to get his child a clear citizenship. She’s been battling for almost four years by then, and by law, has to take her son outside Indonesia every two months since he had only tourists’ visa! She would flew to Malaysia or Batam before going back after a few days, clearly a waste financially, mentally and also physically risky. Trust me, since it increases the risk of plane crash that normally rates one in a million, but is by far higher in Indonesia, which we all know is infamous for flight safety. Well, that is another story and I’m digressing here, but my point is that, in other less fortunate countries, mix marriage may tend to suffer more difficulties than it is in more developed countries.

Some other times, people oppose to the religion changes that often happen in mix marriages. My uncle, who is a good Muslim, not by marriages though (he changed his religion from Catholic in his younger years), got married and his Buddhist wife naturally changed to Muslim. The problem is that, when her now ten-year-old daughter, who look like a Chinese doll, became a Muslim as well, people and her fellow friends, although they do not mean to (maybe) eye her suspiciously every time she mentioned her religion, which happen like, *alot* since she’s studying in Catholic school! I never oppose, I even highly value my uncle’s beliefs of his religion, but I, like many others, perhaps, never get it why a child does not, never gets to choose.

As there are cons, there are pros too to mix marriages. There must be some really good perks right? Well, I believe that before we all go to church or mosque, before our parents tell us to start fasting for good, or not to lie or steal from others, before we know anything about culture, or whether we are Germans, or Malaysians, or Indonesians, even before we let out baby cry when we were born to this world, we are humans first. Unaware of The Chemical Romance and free from bad rock music…. The Chemical Romance is not a bad rock music

Well, at the end of the day, the bottom line is, while there are people opposing against mix marriage, it apparently still, and seem to be in near (and further) future, relies on love. Whatever your color is, your religion, your culture, whether or not you eat beef or read meat, or you’re a committed vegetarian. If you are willing to spend (a life?) time bickering on what catholic school your child will go to, while your husband will ask incredulously, what catholic school?!?! If deep down, you really really, I mean, like really love that somebody, nothing else simply matters. Love abridges all differences *vomit* There is something said about a glass half full =P It is entirely up to you to choose and it depends on what being poured,, sometimes there is no such thing as enough, and all we want.. is more =]

~Do I write better in homework than in my blog, or is it just a flicker of my imagination X_X ?? lol.

P.S. As a side note, I do not want to be an aunt with unknown nieces or nephews! I will find a perfect guy that will let me stay in my country. Wait, there is no such thing like a perfect guy! *dream shattered* Ah, well, I should find ways to meet the kiddies >D However often the blue moon does come

credit: Azu, Noelle

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