Sometimes we want to know about that person’s recent life in detail.

Sometimes we want to ask that person something specific.

Sometimes we want to tell that person something in our mind.

Sometimes we just want to talk to that person longer.

But… We after saying “Hi”, “How are you”, and “What’s new?”…

 It’s silence.

We all know each other have something to say.

We all know what each other is thinking about.

We all have an idea what each other want to say.

 But… we choose not to break the silence….

It’s painful…  but somehow…. we don’t want to break the silence…..it’s just better acting stupid.

An article in today’s newspaper said that somewhere in New York, some people are reading their old diaries and secrets out loud on the street.  And the tend is now spreading to the West coast.  I don’t know about you, but I will never be the one speaking my secrets.  It’s not about violating our rights of privacy as the editor of the article believes.  Secrets are considered secret for a reason.  They are parts of us that we do not want others to know about.  If we do, they are not secrets.  I do not deny that it is an interesting practice and I would like to listen to others’ secrets.  However, I will never read my old diaries and secrets out loud.

Best friends are the siblings God forgot to give us.

When one has expected something, the only results are satisfaction, disappointment, and surprise.  However, it’s mostly either satisfaction or disappointment in reality.  Surprise happens when the result turns out to be way over satisfactory.  This rarely happen in life.  It’s like winning one of the top 3 prices from a lotto. 

However, when one has NO expectation, everything is a surprise.  No disappointment, beyond satisfaction, a surprise. 

I love surprises.  I try not to expect anything or put an expectation on anyone. So everything can turn out to be a surprise for me.  I tried, and stilling trying…. but sometimes, I just expected something without knowing.  I wouldn’t know until I feel disappointed.  I really hate that.  I don’t want disappointment, I don’t like disappointment, I don’t want any expectations.

As I say sometimes, Expectations lead to Disappointments.  NO expectations, NO disappointments.  The world will be filled with surprises and happiness.

I had a small talk with a friend yesterday about assumptions and misunderstanding.  My friend found that assumptions are dangerous.  He feels that for everything he says and does, others assume there are reasons behind them.  And those reasons are totally different from his original intentions.  I suggested that he perhaps  can clarify his intention in the beginning to avoid incorrect assumptions which might lead to misunderstanding.  (However, I also know my suggestion is only theoratical possible, realistically non-sense.)  He hopes others should just stop assuming everything.  But I told him this is not possible because all assumptions are made natually based on one’s experiences.  I gave him a very simple and common scenario: 

If you hear you boss coughing, you will assume he is sick or getting sick.  Your boss doesn’t have to tell you anything.  You just made that assumption natually based on your experiences.

The conversation ended here. However, I think this is a fairly interesting topic to discuss which could continue endlessly.

My accounting professor gave the class another meaningful lecture today.  He said that we are making choices everyday in our life and there are no right or wrong choices. There are just good or bad choices.  As we grow older, the choices we made involve more responsibility.  It is hard to tell others how to make a good choice.  For example, parents might tell their children not to do anything illegal; do not hurt others; do not do anything they wouldn’t do themselves, etc.  However, no one can tell you everything on how to make a good choice. Besides, people wouldn’t listen.  It’s just like how your mom tell you to put on a sweater when you go out at night; wash you hands before dinner, etc.  But it actually all comes down to four words.  Do The Right Thing.

I have a very interesting yet inspiring accounting lecture today. Professor Ravetch was singing songs he wrote while playing his guitar on the stage. He also wrote us a song to help us remember some basic concepts of accounting. The whole class of 100 students were singing along with him. After the humorous performance, he pulled a chair to the middle of the stage and sat there for a moment. Then, he started to talk…

“…If you think life isn’t treating you right, you probably got it reversed. YOU aren’t treating your life right.”

“…I know it is easy to blame on others. But when you point your finger to someone else, you are also pointing three fingers to yourself.”

“…fight for what you want; fight for your dream. Nobody can help you achieve your dream except yourself. Believe in yourself. Believe in your dream. If you didn’t get what you wanted, nobody will feel sorrier than yourself.”

I don’t remember everything he said. But that 5mins talk was very inspirational. I honestly feel that this is the most valuable lecture I have ever attended from my four years of college.

Happy Valentine’s Day for those of you who have a sweetheart today.  And please don’t say “Happy Valentine’s Day” to others without a sweetheart. PLEASE.

Valentine’s Day should be cancelled.  We don’t need this special day every year.  Everyday is like and should be like valentine’s day for those who have their sweethearts.  There is no need to make a special day for them.  And for those who are single or in a desperate situation, they don’t want valentine’s day.  It’s just a day to remind their loneliness.

Seeing girls passed by with their roses, I feel happy for them.  I want to be one of them…

As most of my friends on Facebook know, I rarely post a real picture up as my profile picture.  I like to put cartoon picture up as my profile picture.  But I do have about 60 REAL pictures of me in the photo albums which allows only my friends to see. 

Couple days ago, I wrote the first wall post on someone’s wall.  I simply said the following:

“I got the first wall post!!! YEAH!” 

 Today, there is a second wall post from a friend of that person which said the following:

“I guess i got the 2nd post… not sure if i should be excited?
facebook questions your identity until you replace it with a photo…might be a good idea to post up a photo” 

Here is my response to the 2nd wall post:

Facebook questions MY identity? I doubt it.  I have everything a stranger wants to know about me on my facebook profile.  Perhaps, you question my identity.  Just because you are not able to see my real pictures nor my full profile, does not mean I do not have real pictures on facebook.  Besides, why would you care about my identity?  It is absolutely NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!

Sometimes one smile means more than a dozen roses.

                                                  — from a chocolate wrap

Just a few hours after posting my last entry “Traditions”, I saw this online:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20070115/wl_asia_afp/afpentertainmentindia_070115125731

Former Miss World, Aishwarya Rai and Abhishek Bachchan are engaged.  If you noticed, Rai is 33 and Bachchan is 31.  This is a very late engagement in their traditions.  I can surely tell you that both of them have been under a lot of pressure about their marriage from their families.  This is because the fact that most of the preferred candidates chosen by the families are taken at this age.  One evidence you can find in the article is that the families have already scheduled the wedding in February or March, which is just a month or two from the engagement.

This is a very typical and traditional engagement in their culture.  Families from both side have influence on every single part of this marriage.  I sincerely give them blessings. And I hope that they are engaged because they love each other, not because they have to.

p.s. Aishwarya Rai is one of the most beautiful woman I have seen. 

Some families from certain countries have really strict traditions on marriage.  I totally respect their traditions, but I really doubt the neccessity of enforcing them nowadays.  The following are some of the restrictions they have on choosing a partner.

• Must be same nationality.
• One family must know or be friends with the other family before the two persons start going out.
• Must be opposite sex.
• Must be married by or around 25 years old.
• Must be chosen and approved by the parents of both sides.
• Must have kids soon after married.

The list can be endless, but those above are the main ideas.  Some of them are reasonable to me.  However, most aren’t.  Once again, I completely respect those who choose to follow their traditions.  Yet, are they suitable in the present world?  Why would some families still forcing their children to follow these out-of-dated rules, when their children can find someone they truely love but just not within the traditions?  Are these traditions the best for those who followed? Decide it yourself.

In the end, I am simply glad that I am not born in one of those families with no freedom to love.